Sometimes your reaction has very little to do with what’s happening right now. One surprisingly simple question has helped me recognize old emotional patterns—and transformed the way I navigate my closest relationships.
Relationships are hard—but how hard is too hard? Learn how to tell the difference between the work of intimacy and working too hard to make the wrong relationship work.
Your brain likes to scare you. That’s its evolutionary job. But most of the things it says are an emergency—they’re not.
Download the free “Before You Have the Hard Conversation” prep guide to clarify your thoughts, regulate your emotions, and walk into difficult conversations with greater confidence and connection.
Saying “ouch” when something hurts in a relationship can feel vulnerable… but it’s also super empowering. Here’s why you should consider it, even if it feels scary or hard.
Behalfing is the toxic pattern of pretending you’re doing something on behalf of someone else, without the proper evidence to know you’re meeting their true desire. The trick about behalfing is we convince ourselves we’re being generous or kind, but the truth is we’re out of touch with some desire of our OWN that’s below the surface.
Difficult conversations don’t have to end in disconnection. Here’s one habit that changed everything for me—and how you can learn it too.
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away—it just makes them heavier. Here’s how telling the truth can set everything in motion.
Most of us are walking around starving for real contact. Circling is a simple, radical practice of presence in relationship—one that’s transformed how I listen, connect, and show up in every part of my life.
When you’re tangled in strong emotions or inner conflict, sometimes the way through is to make it bigger. This playful-yet-powerful practice has helped me defuse fights, access deeper truth, and move stuck energy—without bypassing the real stuff.
Naming a direction is kind of like casting a magic spell. It starts to organize reality. From funerals to breakups to everyday dinners, setting intentions has helped me create more meaningful, aligned experiences—and it can do the same for you.
We often get lost in stories about what we think is happening—with ourselves and with others. That’s why “Survey says” is such a useful tool. Just look at the evidence. What results are you getting?
