Maze vs. Labyrinth
I’m reaching into the archives this week. I’ve had a hard few weeks, and this old piece has been one […]
self-awareness
Anava
When you’re over-functioning or drowning in self-doubt, the remedy is the same: anava. A Hebrew word for finding your exact right size.
Behalfing
Behalfing is the toxic pattern of pretending you’re doing something on behalf of someone else, without the proper evidence to know you’re meeting their true desire. The trick about behalfing is we convince ourselves we’re being generous or kind, but the truth is we’re out of touch with some desire of our OWN that’s below the surface.
State Before Strategy
Before choosing a strategy, launching an offer, or making a business decision, pause and check your state of being. The mindset and emotional state you’re moving from matters as much as the actions you take. Shifting into clarity, sufficiency, and desire can change everything about how your work unfolds.
The Story I’m Telling Myself…
Here’s how a charged conversation turned into connection using one powerful sentence: “The story I’m telling myself…” Learn how this simple phrase can transform difficult conversations by making space for vulnerability, curiosity, and shared understanding.
Overfunctioning
Overfunctioning looks like strength—but it’s survival mode. Letting go of the need to do it all is the first step toward real peace.
May I Reflect What I Just Heard?
Difficult conversations don’t have to end in disconnection. Here’s one habit that changed everything for me—and how you can learn it too.
Say The Thing
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away—it just makes them heavier. Here’s how telling the truth can set everything in motion.
Timeless Mode
Timelessness used to be the norm. Learn how to create your own version of “Timeless Mode,” including a simple iPhone Focus trick to keep the clock hidden while still using your phone. Whether you’re craving more presence, rest, or just a new experiment, this gentle shift might open something up.
The 5 Phases of Doing It Differently
The 5 Phases of Doing it Differently offer a powerful map for personal change. From blissful ignorance to new identity, these stages help you recognize that change takes time—and that even when you’re stuck in a “slow-motion wreck,” you’re making progress. You may bounce between phases for a while, but each one is a vital part of learning to choose something new. This framework can help you shift habits with more clarity, compassion, and patience.
Courage First
When you’re stuck or scared to start, it’s not clarity you’re missing—it’s courage. Real change begins before you feel ready.
Imprint
We all carry imprints—unconscious adaptations from earlier in life that shaped how we respond to the world. Like a tree growing away from shade that’s no longer there, or an elephant who forgets its strength, we often stay loyal to conditions that no longer exist. These imprints aren’t flaws; they were wise responses to the environments we once lived in. But when they go unexamined, they can quietly steer our choices and reactions in ways that no longer serve us. Coaching can help you spot these outdated patterns and choose something new.