What do you really want?
What do you really want? This week’s magic words are about learning to get specific — on both sides of a conversation — and what opens up when you do.
communication
Hard Conversations Prep Sheet
Download the free “Before You Have the Hard Conversation” prep guide to clarify your thoughts, regulate your emotions, and walk into difficult conversations with greater confidence and connection.
Ouch
Saying “ouch” when something hurts in a relationship can feel vulnerable… but it’s also super empowering. Here’s why you should consider it, even if it feels scary or hard.
Behalfing
Behalfing is the toxic pattern of pretending you’re doing something on behalf of someone else, without the proper evidence to know you’re meeting their true desire. The trick about behalfing is we convince ourselves we’re being generous or kind, but the truth is we’re out of touch with some desire of our OWN that’s below the surface.
The Story I’m Telling Myself…
Here’s how a charged conversation turned into connection using one powerful sentence: “The story I’m telling myself…” Learn how this simple phrase can transform difficult conversations by making space for vulnerability, curiosity, and shared understanding.
May I Reflect What I Just Heard?
Difficult conversations don’t have to end in disconnection. Here’s one habit that changed everything for me—and how you can learn it too.
Say The Thing
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away—it just makes them heavier. Here’s how telling the truth can set everything in motion.
Speak Inarguably
This idea—speaking inarguably—is one of the most transformative communication tools I’ve ever learned. When we speak inarguably, we come back to the only truth we ever really have: our experience, right now.
Willingness vs. Wantingness
Being willing to do X and wanting to do X aren\’t the same thing. Willingness trumps wantingness, so why not communicate that way?