Sometimes your reaction has very little to do with what’s happening right now. One surprisingly simple question has helped me recognize old emotional patterns—and transformed the way I navigate my closest relationships.
What if the parts of yourself you most want to reject are also hiding some of your power? A personal exploration of shadow work, darkness, self-acceptance and what happened when I stopped insisting I was “definitely not cruel.”
What do you really want? This week’s magic words are about learning to get specific — on both sides of a conversation — and what opens up when you do.
There’s only one faucet, and it carries all the emotions: joy, pain, pleasure, sadness, fear, anger. If you want to love your life, you have to get good at feeling your pain.
Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away—it just makes them heavier. Here’s how telling the truth can set everything in motion.
When you’re stuck or scared to start, it’s not clarity you’re missing—it’s courage. Real change begins before you feel ready.
Resenvy is my made-up word for that messy cocktail of resentment, envy, grief, and shame that flares up when someone else claims a freedom we’ve denied ourselves. It shows up when they say no and we didn’t. When they take a stand we told ourselves wasn’t possible. Spotting it doesn’t make the trigger vanish—but it can ease the pressure, like lancing a blister. Naming it gives us a handle. And from there, we can begin to choose something new.
A true naturalist doesn’t try to control the wild. They witness it with reverence. What if you brought the same attention to your inner world?
We need to remember to embrace the pain, to find value and meaning in the difficult parts of life.
I’m in awe of how powerful these workshops are. Our world would be a better place if more people got support to unravel their early trauma.
