In 2018, I started dating a man who had a weird habit.
He would turn to me out of the blue, with no context whatsoever, and say something like, “A or B?”
The first few times this happened, I was understandably confused.
“A or B what? What are you talking about?”
“Just A or B. What’s your sense?”
I could have resisted and demanded he explain. I could have told him it was nonsense for me to weigh in on choices without even knowing what they were.
Instead, I started practicing.
I’d let my attention go inward. I’d soften my jaw and my gaze. And I’d see what I’d notice trying the two options on—totally blind.
“A feels smoother to me,” I might answer.
Or maybe, “Oooh, I feel energy rise in my belly with B.”
I didn’t realize it then, but this man was offering me incredible practice tuning into my Inner Wisdom.
By taking my busy mind out of the equation, he gave me a rare (up to that point) chance to really notice what my body signals and energy were telling me, without the complication of “logic” or “stakes” or “caring what the choice ends up being.”
Nearly a decade later, I look back with deep gratitude on this fun game we played at least weekly for years.
This was just one exercise, but combined with other work I was doing, I went from someone who felt completely disconnected from her inner knowing to someone who uses it to make nearly every decision.
Learning to trust your inner wisdom
Here’s what was so powerful about this game:
When I didn’t know what A and B represented, I couldn’t make a pros-and-cons list.
I couldn’t figure out which answer would make me look smarter, more generous, or more responsible.
I couldn’t even decide which outcome I preferred.
All I could do was notice what was happening inside me.
And it turns out, there’s a LOT of information available when you stop demanding that your brain explain everything first.
And I want more people to experience that kind of transformation.
Because I know what it’s like to be on the painful side of not having it.
To have a life that looks pretty good on paper, but somehow doesn’t feel quite right.
To be so busy doing what you should do that you’ve almost forgotten how to recognize what you actually WANT.
To go around and around in your head about a decision, weighing pros and cons, asking everyone else’s opinion, trying to figure out the RIGHT answer.
And meanwhile, there’s a whole other source of guidance available to you.
One that doesn’t require you to think harder.
Your inner wisdom.
I believe we all have access to it.
But most of us have spent a LOT more time learning to listen to outside authorities than to the intelligence that’s already alive inside us.
And the noise can get pretty loud.
Which is why I’m creating something new.
Introducing: Inner Wisdom Bootcamp
October 16–20, 2026 | FREE | Online
A simple 5-day upgrade to deepen your access to your most powerful guidance.
I’m inviting you to spend a little time each day exploring what inner wisdom actually is, why it’s so hard to hear sometimes, and what becomes possible when you start letting it lead.
This isn’t about me telling you what to do with your life.
(I’m smart, but not THAT smart.)
It’s about helping you get better at hearing the part of you that already knows.
Over five days, we’ll explore:
What inner wisdom actually is (and how it’s different from what you know in your logical mind)
Why you’ve gotten so good at ignoring it (there’s a reason, and it doesn’t mean you’re broken)
What it costs you when you don’t listen—and what’s possible when you do
How to start recognizing its signals, even when they’re subtle
What it takes to trust and follow your knowing, especially when it doesn’t make logical sense
You’ll get a short daily teaching (15 minutes or less), journal prompts and wonder questions, and an optional quest to bring the exploration into your actual life.
You can participate in about 15–30 minutes a day.
My hope?
That you come out the other side a little less tangled up in shoulds.
A little clearer about what you actually want.
A little more willing to trust yourself.
And a whole lot more connected to the aliveness and wisdom that’s been there all along.
Because here’s something I’ve come to believe more and more deeply:
The world doesn’t need more people doing what they’re supposed to do.
It needs more people listening to their deepest guidance and bringing their truest selves forward.
I’d love for you to be one of them.
JOIN THE FREE INNER WISDOM BOOTCAMP
Not sure you can make it live? Join anyway to get the prompts in your inbox. Even just tuning in for one of the days could change everything.
Your inner wisdom is already there
Here’s what I want you to know, whether you join me for the bootcamp or not:
You don’t have to become a different person to access your inner wisdom.
You don’t have to become more spiritual, more intuitive, or better at meditating.
You already have it.
The work is learning to recognize it, trust it, and let it lead.
And that can change just about everything.
If you’re curious about other ways to get out of your head and make decisions with more clarity, check out my Decision Grid.
And if you’re ready to discover what becomes possible when you stop living according to everyone else’s expectations and start following your own deepest knowing, that’s what living in your Wild Genius is all about.
From the inside out,
Rachel
